Was it Eleanor Roosevelt who said to “do one thing every day that scares you?”
It’s a great quote, and a good magnet for the fridge, but I don’t agree. When I think about the things that scare me – telling someone I like him / running for 30 min IN PUBLIC / taking a day trip to the zoo for no reason (I’m an introvert who likes home), the things that scare me are often romantic (in sweep/grandiosity) and larger-than-life. Not everyday things. In the context of Eleanor R’s quote, the things that scare me become urgent hindrances I must conquer in order to function at my highest level.
It’s not how life – and the human mind – work.
In my view, human beings build on our own progress. What are your passions? What makes you feel alive? Just because something scares you doesn’t mean its conquest will get you closer to the person you want to be. But you can build on small accomplishments that excite you.
I started this blog to chronicle my doings around LA, which is not really a good platform considering I’m an introvert who literally hibernates on weekends. I hated forcing myself to go out those first few months I had this blog; I was doing things for the story, and doing things for the story never works. To stretch and contract as a human being, you pay attention to yourself, and then:
you do one thing every day that makes you uncomfortable.
Suddenly it’s not so overwhelming. And by focusing on what’s uncomfortable to you, it becomes about where you specifically can and want to improve, not where you or anyone else thinks you should.